Parenting is one tough job and a constant learning process. I wish parenting was easy and it didn’t require so much of me, or rather that there was more left of me after the day was done. I wish that my children were angelic, obedient, and always eager to please. I wish that I knew what I was doing. But it doesn’t always work that way—not even close.
However, there are moments when my children melt my heart and leave me in tears because of how loving, appreciative and sweet they are. Their hugs and kisses are the best feeling ever.
Being a parent to Aryanna in my early 20’s was life-changing to say the least. Being a new mom at that time, I had fears, doubts and so many questions. One of the things that helped me in addressing my insecurities was reading books on parenting. It empowered me to become a better mother and helped me understand my feelings. I learned how to let go of guilt, fear, anxiety, uncertainty as I honestly look at what drives my parenting actions and at the same time, gain the ability to connect with my newborn from the heart by uncovering my own heart.
Now that Aryanna is all grown-up and in my opinion has turned out to be such a lovely human being (I think I’m just lucky but my daughter insists that her dad and I are awesome parents *melts heart*), I think whatever I learned from books and applying them in my real life plus, learning from different experiences and some wisdom from my parents were worthwhile.
I hope to improve in becoming a better parent and develop more patience for my 5-year old son Dylan. He is one active boy and such a funny character that it takes all my willpower not to give in to his antics.
Speaking of parenting books, I found this article online: Helicopter Parenting Is a Trap. It’s Time to Break Free
I’m also looking forward to reading these books:
How to Raise an Adult: Break Free of the Overparenting Trap and Prepare Your Kid for Success By Julie Lythcott-Haims
Smart Love: The Comprehensive Guide to Understanding, Regulating and Enjoying Your Child By Martha Heineman Pieper and William J. Pieper
I hope these new books I ordered have a chapter on how to deal with children when they get sick. Dylan’s been ill the past few days and my world has stopped. No amount of experience can ease my worries as a mother. Haaaaay!
I can muddle through the years of parenting, resenting every hard thing along the way or face those same challenges as one who lives expecting them, embracing them, and believing they are the true path to molding my children’s character and my own.
If there’s a tip I would like to share about parenting is that to keep learning and growing as an individual because nurturing children requires a lot of ourselves and we cannot give them what we don’t have in terms of wisdom.
Embrace the calling of parenthood and see how your life (and your children’s too) change for the better.